Less Complaining, More Sexy Rumpus.

Despite being single this year, Valentine's Day doesn't actually bother me. In fact, I still quite like the day. I look forward to buying neat decorations at the dollar store every year. Being the sexy, amazing tiger vixen that I am (hahaha!), naturally I enjoy things like roses, sparkly red and heart shaped things to adorn my abode with. Strange, my ex didn't quite feel the same way.

Many are sorry for his loss.

Anyway, I was out most of the day today, and saw many people with roses and gifts, and people with their arm around one another, etc. What I was thinking about however, was how disappointing it is that this is the one and only day of the year where you actually notice people doing that. Why?

It's a damn shame. What is society's problem with affection? People should be this attentive to their partners all the time. And yet year after year there are so many jokes about how the whole Valentine's Day thing is such a 'hassle' to men, and that it's a "girl" holiday.

I'm sorry, but I had thought this was a day that celebrated love. You know, something TWO people are involved in. Not buying things for one to pretend you give a bigger shit about it than you actually do. It's about the both of you. Yet because it's a holiday that focuses on love, somehow it's touted as a girl thing. Please to explain?

Taking it one step further, a BS, pretty much anti-Valentine's March 14th thing stems out of this skewed view. As if the girls now owe ther boyfriends/husbands for "all the effort" they made on Valentine's day. What do you mean, "all the effort" that is basically you making up for an entire year of not doing it? No? Oh, sorry for being so ignorant. So please...elaborate as to why this is such a pain in the ass for you.

Now, despite my argument that I think people should be this attentive ALL the time, I do actually believe in doing something special for V-Day. In fact, I always used to like to book a day somewhere and buy a silly gift. On my first non-single Valentine's, I was surprised to hear my then-bf say to me, "I didn't realize that people did things like that on Valentine's Day." o_O

I was a little confused, but was like, I guess some people don't celebrate it much. So I didn't worry about it. What the kicker was though, was that it was the same every subsequent year. I think I got flowers once? Don't get me wrong, I obviously don't put a lot of value on tangible offerings. I like showing care in a variety of meaningful ways.

But you'd think when I drop around $200 on a night out EVERY year, one might recognize that the date is something that is special to me. I don't care if you draw a shoddy heart on a napkin in crayon. I just want you to recognize that it's important to me instead of going ahead with the notion that it's another irrelevant day when clearly I've been so enthusiastic about it in the past.

Okay, enough with the sidetrack rant. The point was just to say, wtf people? Why do people take so many things for granted? Why just do extra kind things for your lover on Valentine's Day? Why just promote helping the poor at Christmastime? Why only call your Mother/Father to thank them for all the hard work they've done for your ass your entire life just on Mother's/Father's Day?

I don't get it.

And now, if you all didn't see it already on my facebook posts today, here is a great Valentine's comic. As usual the Oatmeal is spot on.

http://theoatmeal.com/blog/valentines_day

Since then I've had "Less complaining. More sexy rumpus," as a personal motto of mine. :D Sadly, I still do a fuckload of complaining, and there hasn't been much sexy rumpus going on, either. Hmmm...do you think those things have an inverse correlation to each other...? :O

Tatas for later, my lovelies. ;)

xoxo,

Sheeyan <3

Vancouver vs. Winnipeg: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part One)

I've had the prairies on the brain a LOT lately. There are various reasons for this which I'll post about in more detail later, but I've had the thought floating through my head for several months now on whether it would be worth my while to move back.

I've grown frustrated with this rainy, unfriendly, expensive city. I mean, I do love Vancouver. I suppose I just don't like the people that live IN Vancouver. That and the lack of sun, of course.

So just for the hell of it, I decided I'd make a pros and cons list. This actually ended up being more detailed that I originally thought it would, so I'm going to post the two cities in separate posts. Let's start with my current place of residence. I may think of additional stuff later, in which case I'll make an update.

VANCOUVER

Pros:

- All my best friends from the past 10 years are close to here. However, that list is not what it used to be; names have dropped off of it in recent times.
- I have a good job, probably the best one I've ever had.
- Bigger centre for opportunities (at least so I'm told).
- Beautiful mountains and ocean nearby. The beauty here is just without comparison.
- Instructors I want to work more with here, as well as bandmates.
- The most awesome doctor ever (seriously, this is hard to find).
- Being able to walk a few minutes down any street and find a GOOD pizza and/or sushi joint.
- Being able to go out in my yard in the middle of February in a tank top and not be cold!
- Granville Street and assorted places downtown having buskers and performers out at most times of the year. It's an amazing feeling to walk down the street and have a drumbeat pulsate through your heart.
- Has probably one of the largest and most diverse burlesque scenes in Canada. I don't know if I'd enjoy being somewhere that didn't have this.
- Skytrain. Seriously. I love that thing. Although sometimes the creaks scare me.
- Feeling like I'm a part of something important. I don't know, I can't describe it.
- Good alternative community/acceptance. Getting weird looks from dressing the way I do seems less prominent here than anywhere else. And more importantly, there are enough alt clothing stores here so that I don't have to buy all of mine from ebay.
- People are a lot more natural health aware here. It makes my job and finding things I need much easier.

Cons:

- The sun comes out about 1% of the year
- Constant rain on a person that has trouble keeping warm as it is = not cool
- Most people are generally unfriendly, and I find there's a lot of cliquey-ness, which is stupid
- Overabundance of hippies/hipsters/people that like to protest things
- Walking up hills can be annoying, particularly whilst hurrying for the bus. Also, I fail at riding a bicycle here.
- Third most expensive city to live in...in the ^&%*ing WORLD. And I am a mighty poor lady.
- The reek of weed can assault my nostrils at any given time. Also, I have never been to any other city (granted it's not many) where a particular place in town can be referenced by mentioning its discernible eau de pee.
- Oh, and worse, the amount of people here that fiercely defend pot. Come on, people. We all know your real translation for "Legalize it for medicinal use!" is really just "I want to get high."
- Everything is SO far away and takes a billion years to get to.
-Surrey. Self explanatory.
- EVERYONE *^&%ing whines when it goes under 10C. It's positively the most annoying/retarded thing ever. What is wrong with you people? Do you have something against purchasing or wearing additional layers?! STFU!
- The streets turn into a car-pocalypse if there's so much as a millimetre of snow. You DO realize that we live in Canada, and winter is synonymous with snow, even though BC gets less and wetter stuff than most places. You'd think people would figure out how to be weather prepared by now. &^*%! It can be a full on -50C, five foot high blizzard in the Peg and Winnipeggers can still drive better in that than you do in this joke you call snow that BC has. For shame!

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I will post the Winnipeg side soon. Let me know your thoughts and comments! Even though this list was made partly in silliness, this is a serious consideration I'm making. The input of those I love is very important.

Tatas for later, Moi

PS - http://theoatmeal.com/blog/seattle_weather